Everyone has an idea of what characteristics they value in a significant other—for some, the list comes easy—it's short, simple and to the point. The others, are avid list-makers. They have a long-winded list of ideal characteristics they'd like to see in their dream man/woman, and sometimes, the ranking of these characteristics change weekly. I can admit I used to be a list-maker when it came to love; in some ways, I think I still am, but in a more realistic, mature sense.
I had the pleasure of connecting with Elena Murzello, author of The Love List, a thought-provoking guide-of-sorts on relationships and list-making. She admits she's no expert, but her book is based on her personal life experiences and in-depth research. And does an "expert" really exist when it comes to relationships, anyway? Don't we base our decisions in our relationships on our past experiences and advice given to us by close friends and family that is based on past experiences of their own?
Q: Ten years ago, you had a list of 55 ideal characteristics for your potential mate. How does that list look now?
It's significantly shorter now! My list is narrowed down to 10. As I've gained life experience, my priorities have certainly changed and The List has evolved. I'm definitely proud of my growth and learnings - it's made me who I am today.
Q: Outside of The Love List, where do most of your passions lie?
As an Aquarian - I'm multi-faceted in my interests; travel, design, food, and exercise are just a few that come to mind.
Q: What is the most important characteristic for you in regards to your significant other?
Definitely trust. It is the foundation of building, and moving forward in, a relationship.
Q: A lot of my readers are career-driven women; how do you personally balance love vs. life?
I believe that love and life shouldn't be considered separate entities. The whole idea of a balance can be deceiving. Love should be embedded in everything you do.
Q: What is the one piece of advice you'd give to the list-makers out there in regards to finding love?
My one piece of advice would be this: take time and carefully create your list. Then, put it away in a safe place. When the moment arises (and it will), pull out your list and review it. Love will find you when the time is right.
The Love List breathes life into the union of list-making and relationships, and it was refreshing to know that I could relate to almost everyone introduced in the book, along with their personal relationship experiences.
You can win your very own copy of The Love List—simply leave a comment on this Facebook post with the #1 characteristic on your love list—I'll choose one lucky winner at random on March 18th! U.S. only, please, and you must be at least 18 years of age or older.
*Disclosure: The book featured in this post was provided by the author for feature. Opinions expressed here are my own and are not indicative of the opinions or positions of Elena Murzello.